Wave: Well hello Ethan, at last I have you where I want you, all tied up on the blog *g*

ED:  Thank you for having me Wave…and thank you for removing the ball-gag. ; )

Wave: What do you want the readers to know about Ethan Day the person and the author? (You can tell us as little or as much as you like)

ED:  Nothing!  They must know nothing!!  I’m closing the gates on all personal information…seriously.  I just got a great deal on Neverland Ranch, and now that I have my own compound, I’m adopting a ‘loose lips sink ships’ mentality.

Now that I have the silliness out of my system…I guess I don’t really know what to tell you.  I really like to write, and I have a rather extravagantly, over-active imagination.   I’m an on again, off again pop-culture junkie.  I’ve found that the older I get the less I can take today’s pop-culture.  It’s all pubes, ‘that’s-hot’, shaved heads, fire crotches, and baby-daddies.

Honestly, most of the time I’m one ‘long-lost Jonas Brother’ away from offing myself.  Despite not being alive at the time, I miss the old days when we had Elizabeth freakin’ Taylor stealing husbands away from her BFF’s…now the best we can do is Britney & K-Fed?  We’ve gone from classy people acting trashy to just plain old trashy people acting trashy.  I’m completely distraught, Wave! : )

Wave: Tell us something fun about Ethan and does it have anything to do with how long it takes you to get ready in the morning?

ED:  First of all, I insist on knowing who spilled the beans about how long it takes me to get ready in the morning.  They will have to pay!

Something about me…I suck at me, I’m really better with imaginary people.

Um, I am one of those people who tend to soak up the energy of the people I’m around.  Kinda like a live action mood ring, I guess…accept I don’t change colors.  So, basically if I ever piss you off…hire some really depressed person to follow me around all day!  That’ll learn me.

Wave: Moving on to your books — You have two published works and Self Preservation, your first book, caused quite a stir on the blog because I made an error and asked two of the guest reviewers to read and review it. I understand that a couple of your fellow authors (Josh Lanyon for one) wanted to know how you rated so highly to have duelling reviews for SP:) What was your reaction when you saw both reviews

ED:  Initially I thought I’d stumbled into some sick sort of new author hazing ritual!! LOL…good times.

Actually, I think it was like the second and third review I received, so for the most part I was just giggling that I had something that anyone else was reviewing.  I mean, really…it was my first book.  I was honestly so psyched that I’d written something…and other people were actually reading it!  I actually had no clue you didn’t normally do the whole dueling reviews thing until fellow authors such as Josh started commenting on it.

I thought the concept was really cool though.  I was all like…whoa, very Siskel & Eberty.

Wave: You write romantic comedies (at least so far). Why romantic comedies? Is it because the stories are a reflection of people in your life?

ED:  I enjoy writing romantic comedies because I like to laugh and have a good time.  They tend to make me feel good, so I like to think they make anyone reading it feel good too.  Realistically I know that isn’t always the case(thinking back to those dueling reviews, LOL), but it’s what I like to tell myself.  I don’t enjoy writing sad stuff, because I have to drag my ass to a sad place in order to do it.  I’m not one of those sick-o’s who enjoys torturing themselves with angst and anger.  I prefer skipping along, giggling light heartedly through the forest, looking for my very own Big Bad Woof.

I’m the kind of person who NEVER watched Boys Don’t Cry because I knew how it ended, LOL.  I don’t like experiencing stuff like that.  I tend to avoid the bad and nasty if and when I can.  Don’t EVEN get me started on Brokeback.

Writing a book isn’t like reading one.  I can read a sad book because it’s over in a day or so, and within another day…two days max, I can distract myself with something shiny and move on.  To write one, and be in that head space for a month or more?  No thanks.  That doesn’t mean I never will, but it’s not my natural inclination to go there.  I don’t mind doing a drive-by in my fun books…a dash of angst here and there…a heartfelt moment tossed in for good measure?  I do like adventure stories, and I like sci-fi, and paranormal.  I’m sure I’ll try many things at one point or another…but Rom/Com is where I’ll hang my hat most of the time.

I’m not a very serious individual, does it show?

Wave: Aunt Lynn one of the reviewers on the blog has a question for you

I notice, Ethan, that you have a strong, often humorous, online presence, from your own blog, to guest blogging on other sites, to interviews, to interacting with readers and commenting on reviews.  One of the things that attracted me to you was this interaction, especially in the face of some not necessarily glowing reviews of <i>SP</i> — mine included — on this here blog.  You remained professional in the face of criticism, and I respected you for that.  In fact, it made me even more eager to read <i>DOY</i>, which you may have noticed I loved muchly.  Anyway, from what I’ve witnessed, it seems like the readers and other authors love you.  Do you feel your online presence has affected your, for lack of a better term, popularity?

ED:  First of all, thanks to Aunt Lynn for the question and for keeping an open mind with me, by giving DOY a try.

I think this is a tough question to answer, as most people who dislike someone are usually polite enough to not run to that person and tell them how much they hate them.  I have heard about an unkind comment made about me here or there…always second-hand, of course, but I certainly don’t think I’m loved by all, and that’s okay.  I’ve been around the block long enough to know that everyone isn’t going to like me.  I’ve also been around the block long enough to be okay with that revelation.  All I can control is what I put out there.  As long as I represent myself in a way that allows me to hold my head up and I can say I’m proud of the books that I write…all is good in the world.  That just has to be enough.  I’m not perfect, and I’m sure I’ve said or will say things that will upset some people.  As long as those incidents remain unintentional, I’ll be okay with that as well.

I do think I’ve done my best to give people I interact with online a sense of what they might get from my books.  That has certainly been intentional.  Mainly so I can defend myself should anyone ever come up to tell me how much they hate my books, LOL.  I can look at them and say, “Hello…you read that interview on Jessewave’s review blog…I wasn’t exactly hiding my light under basket!”

I’ve intentionally taken lines out of my books and used them in blogs, and vice versa.  The blogs especially are meant to be little Ethan hors d’oeuvres, for lack of a better word.  I don’t blog often, but when I do, I try to make sure anyone reading it will come away with a sense of who I am as an individual, as well as an author.  I used the same sort of philosophy when I sat down to write up my bio.  My own attempt at synergy, I suppose.

One thing I certainly never thought about in relation to writing books was the massive online community.  I really enjoy talking with readers and writers and reviewers.  I wasn’t sure at first that would be the case, but I do seriously enjoy it.  Perhaps that’s something that manages to squeak through the megapixels and people out there on the other side of the computer screen can sense that?  I’m certainly flattered if Lynn is correct and I am indeed well liked.  (It’s taking every ounce of restraint I have to not do the Sally Field Oscar speech right now.)

Wave: I believe you’re writing a historical novel. What can you tell us about it and why the shift from romantic comedy which has been so successful for you in terms of fan appeal?

ED:  I think part of the reason comes from fear.  I mean, it’s not like I walk around all day cracking one-liners and trying out comedy bits for laughs.  Can I write something that isn’t fun and full of frothy goodness?  I don’t know…one way to find out.  What if I wake up one day and the well has run dry and I can no longer write frothy goodness?  I don’t want to have to frothin’ retire if that’s the case. : )

The book is called A Token of Time and its part contemporary, part historical, part paranormal.  You also asked the question: ‘Since you like old movies do you think you’ll ever write a romance that’s set in say the 30’s, about a gay movie star?’

Well, Token is my answer to that question.  Its part romance with a fifties matinee idol, part lost love, it is very serious at times, yet it’s also done in a way that allows me to toss in some sarcastic humor for good measure.  Typically life isn’t all up or all down, it’s a mix.  If I do my job right, each book no matter what slant I’m taking should have some of both.  There’s a lot more to this book than I initially thought, and it’s winding up a bit longer than imagined.  Hopefully it’ll be worth the wait and all the trouble.  Time will tell, I guess, LOL.  I don’t know, I guess whether its good and people like it, or a steaming pile of poo that everyone hates…at least I tried.  I don’t think there’s anything wrong with failing, but to never try? And I think every writer should step outside of their comfort zone occasionally.  At least, that’s the story I’m telling myself this week.

Wave: You said about your second book, Dreaming of You, which was rated 5 stars on this blog, that the main character Aden Ingle managed to obtain one or two of your personality traits. Which traits are those?

ED:  And a very big thank you to Aunt Lynn for those five stars.  I love each and every one of them, LOL.

Well the fantasy life for sure.  While Aden only dreamed about one man, I dream about thousands of men!!!  I’m a total dream whore.  I have quite the busy social calendar in my head.  The whole karma bit is mine as well, although I don’t keep score.  It is something that probably helps keep me in line.  I’m old enough to have actually witnessed first-hand, that what goes around does indeed come around.  It also allows me to not hold a grudge.  Ninety-nine percent of the time I can let things go, cause I know the offender will get what’s coming to them.  I may not be around to see it happen, but I know it will happen.  I also have entire conversations with myself.  I’ll argue back and forth…the whole nine yards.  It’s a little weird, LOL.

Wave: Since you like old movies do you think you’ll ever write a romance that’s set in say the 30’s, about a gay movie star?

Sometime ago you did a post on another blog where you talked about “Is it real or is it Memorex” – the difference between fantasy and reality. You also said in another interview that “I do my best to avoid normal days. When I’m very lucky, I get to spend my days pretending to be other people who live in other places.”

Have you ever had a situation in your life where the fantasy world and reality collided?

ED:  No, damn it!!  I keep waiting and waiting…but nada!  LOL.

Alex, one of the characters from S-P is fairly close to what I’d consider the perfect man…at least for me.  Not that the guy would have to be British, but I tend to like lippy men.  I’m a lippy man, so having someone to get lippy wit it…wit me…me likey.  To me, a good banter is like foreplay.  I’m definitely ready for that fantasy to stumble into my reality.

Wave: Now that you have been published for a while what’s the best part? What are the challenges?

ED:  The challenges at this point all come down to time.  Time to write, blog, promo, update websites…I suck at scheduling.  The fact that I have a day job places added pressure on the need to plan my time out.  Some of these authors work all day at the EDJ and then still manage to put out a book every two months or less.  I have mad respect for that.  I’m a slow writer, and there’s a lot of pondering.  I write at the computer, I still write out long hand sometimes.  I keep a pen and mini-legal next to my bed because while I’m laying there trying to go to sleep, I often get ideas or even just one line, something I think is funny which I’ll wind up building an entire chapter off of.  The entire last chapter of Self Preservation was built around two lines of dialogue.  If I don’t scribble it down before falling asleep, it’s usually gone by morning and I’ll waste half a day trying to remember what it was.

The best part is doing stuff like this and being able to talk with people about books, mine as well as other authors.  Getting to know the other authors is very cool as well.  The very best is writing a book and knowing that there are people out there who are actually willing to read it.  I really love that part!  It’s the most flattering thing to me…that someone is willing to use their free time to read one of my books.  Very cool and very humbling.

Wave: What can you tell us about your upcoming books that are scheduled for release within the next 3 – 6 months?

ED:  My third novel As You Are, was just contracted by Loose Id.  I’m probably looking at a September/October release date, I don’t know the exact day yet.  It’s a contemporary Rom/Com and a simpler story.  The book opens on a Friday and closes on the following Thursday.  It’s about a guy who’s been in love with his roommate for the better part of the past year.  Julian’s the type of guy who does the fall & focus.  All of his attention placed on the thing he wants most.  He’s been tossing out hints to Danny for months, some subtle, some not so much, until one day he decides enough is enough.  That’s pretty much where the book begins. Having thrown in the proverbial towel when it comes to all things Danny, Julian has decided to start dating again, after meeting the new guy in town, Andy.  Insert hi-jinks here, LOL.

It’s a straight up ‘does he or doesn’t he love me’ story.  Hopefully I’ve done my job right and the personalities of the characters will have readers falling in love with them.  Julian is perhaps a bit more out there.  He has very definite opinions about life and love and he’s somewhat unyielding in those beliefs.  He’s not afraid of much else other than not finding love, and he’s very good at compartmentalizing things…pushing the truth into the back of his mind and sort of tossing a nice throw over it in an attempt to pretend it’s not really there…that everything is going to be okay.

I’m also finishing up a short story, titled Snow Ho, for MLR.  Part of a three-way antho with William Maltese and Jason Edding called, Melting the Slopes.  It has a wintery snow and hot drink theme which should be coming out this winter at some point.  It is as well meant to be a fun romp, falling in love through fighting…with each other and for control.

As far as the rest of 2009 goes, I’m going to work on finishing up Token and then I’ll be ready to dive back in with Davis and the clan and start writing the sequel to Self Preservation.  I hope to have these two books written by the end of the year.  They may not actually be released this year, but I hope to have them written and in the pipeline.


Wave: This is the naughty section of the interview so I think you know what’s coming now and it’s not you know who *g* (sorry I couldn’t resist)

ED:  Does that mean the ball-gag’s going back on?  : )

Wave: My first question is what’s your cutest body part? (please don’t tell me your toes)

ED:  Um…first off all I’m very anti-feet, so no worries on the toe front.

Jeez, I dunno.  I’ve never really deconstructed myself piece by piece, LOL.  This is beginning to feel a little too Boxing Helena, Wave. ; )

I’m a bit of an eyes, lips, and hands man when it comes to other guys.  My left ass cheek is far superior to my right ass cheek.  The right one knows it, too.  It’s always bitching about the left side.

“Lefty gets all the attention!  No one ever gropes me!  Marsha, Marsha, Marsha!”

Very low self esteem happening on the right side of my ass.

Wave: What would you REALLY like to say to anyone who hated Self Preservation? There must be at least 2 or 3 people who are not fans. (Remember this blog is only NC17) 🙂 

ED:  LMAO!!  Wave…you insinuate I have a potty mouth.

I’d probably just thank them for giving it a try.  All I wanted was for people to have a good time with the book.  I laughed so much writing it, and I mean serious laughing…the can’t hardly catch your breath cause your laughing so hard that you really need to get some air otherwise you might pass out on the office floor kinda laughing.  I remember thinking that if people had half the fun reading it that I had writing it, then for me…that would make it a success.  I mean, look…I’m not walking around trying to act as if I’m this fantastic new writer…the voice of my big-gay-generation or any other B.S.   I neither claim to try nor would I want to try writing the next, War & Peace.  I’m a purveyor of what is fully intended to be bubbly frothy-goodness and I’m not ashamed to admit it.

Wave: Other than spending most of your free time in front of the television, what do you do for fun?  What would the neighbors think if they could see you?

ED:  Pervy ass neighbors!!  What the hell are they peeping in my windows for?  Go buy a television for Christ’s sake.  : )

I write, which a lot of the time is fun.  I do have my moments where I’m shaking my fist at the computer and screaming four-letter frustrations.  But when it’s on…and I’m typing away and what’s coming out is even better than I’d hoped it would be when I got started that day.  There isn’t much that can compare to that feeling for me.  I’m slightly addicted to that feeling; it gives me chills to think about it.

I’ve never had any problems being alone.  Maybe that’s because S-P and DOY are the things that come from that time by myself.  I guess I never get lonely because I always have the company of the characters I’m writing.  It has its good points and bad points.  I have a tendency to lock myself away, which doesn’t leave much time for finding a real life husband, LOL.

I was the youngest of four and the only boy.  I was also kind of an accident…that unplanned pregnancy that happened when my parents had decided to stop having kids already.  I’m about five years younger than the youngest of my three sisters, so I got used to playing by myself as a child.  That’s really when I started making up stories…sitting in the middle of my bedroom floor with my Star Wars action figures… I suppose you could call that old-school oral fan-fiction, LOL.

Other than that, I chat with friends, online and off.  I also love to read.  Mainly fiction, but occasionally I’ll throw in a biography.  I do love my classic movies.  TCM is my friend.  Bringing Up Baby, Pillow Talk, and My Man Godfrey…I cant think of a better waste of two hours.  Well…two hours by myself, anyway. : )

Wave: Have you ever thought of making it with any of the characters in your books? Any two characters at the same time? *g* 

ED:  I kinda answered the character part above in terms of Alex from S-P.  As far as the second part of the question goes…three ways and I don’t mix.  I have the worst hand/eye co-ordination known to man.  More than one set of anything always spells bad news for me.  I know it’s not sexy, but it’s just the way it is.  And to be honest, I’m okay with that.  I’ve never been a greedy guy…trying to bogart all the cock within the tri-state area.  Can I say cock here?  LOL.  Penis?  I’m sure you’ll censor me where appropriate.  : )

Wave: Have you ever done bad things with liquid chocolate? If so, was the chocolate hot when poured?

ED:  I have not.  I guess I’m not a big mixer of pleasures.  I like my chocolate in my mouth, not in my hands…my showers by myself, and my men in my bed – preferably not covered in any type of food or food-like product .

Maybe it’s not so strange though?  My grandma actually purchased special plates for me and one of my sisters, the kind that had the separate sectioned off areas because we didn’t like our food touching each other.  Early signs of my Anal Annieness?

Wave: Someone told me that you are afraid of needles and therefore have no piercings. I’m currently reading TQ’s Toy Box Guiche. What do you think about this practice?

ED:  I am anti-needle, Wave.  I have to look away when I get a shot or have blood taken.  I made the mistake of looking once when I was having blood taken.  Passed out big time.  I’d make the worst vampire!

Piercings don’t really do anything for me.  I wouldn’t NOT date a guy because he had them, but they aren’t a turn on for me.  As far as the Guiche goes…I’m not positive, but I feel fairly certain that tongues were what was meant to go in that region of the body, not metal.  The whole PA thing freaks me out a little as well.  I’m always paranoid it will be on before it enters my body, but will have disappeared by the time the fun is over.  Could you imagine?  Try explaining that one while attempting to get through airport security.  Awkward!

I don’t dislike tattoos, either.  They don’t really turn me on, or turn me off.  I just don’t care for the way they have to be applied.  I used to love the tattoo’s that came in the Cracker Jack boxes!

Wave: If you weren’t a writer would you like to do?

ED:  If I couldn’t be a writer I’d like to be a character in a book…a fun book with lots of laughs and a happy ending.  Figured I’d better clarify…I’d hate to wake up some day in a Stephen King novel being chased by an axe wielding Kathy Bates.

Thank you Ethan

ED:  Thank you Wave!  Hopefully you won’t be ‘losing’ my e-mail addy after this experience. : )